Before going through this blessing of carrying our baby.. also known as being pregnant - I loved seeing pregnant people.
It was almost like seeing a rare animal or something, and observing them in the wild.. ha. Terrible I know, but pregnancy is such an amazing experience, not to mention INSANE. Insane that a human body grows a human from just one sperm, that turns into an apple seed, to an apple, to a cauliflower, to a pumpkin and finally a baby.
I just think that is amazing... I mean, there was a baby, the size of "Kale" in my body, moving around, kicking, sleeping, eating, reacting to my voice and touch. Just crazy.
Of course the thing that catches everyone's eye is the belly bump, which is so... interesting. When I see a woman who is pregnant, its almost hard for me to imagine what their body looks like without a baby inside. For me, I feel like I look like the grinch.
I wondered to myself...
Does she workout?
What does she do to keep her skin so radiant?
Has she had an easy pregnancy?
Has she gained enough weight?
Has she gained too much weight?
What is the sex of the baby?
Are there more than one in there? ... yes, depending on how long I am around her, I am wondering these things.
The keyword there is WONDERING.
Some people can't keep their thoughts to themselves, otherwise known as word-vomit, and say or ask questions they probably shouldn't have. I tried to give people the benefit of the doubt that they weren't trying to be offensive, they are just merely interested or don't know what to say.
Here are some of the top most shocking comments/questions that have been said to me...
01 / You're going to be HUGE. This comment was made to me when I was about 15 weeks along. The best part, was that I was wearing a flowy dress, it wasn't even tight.
02 / Are you sure you're not carrying twins in there? Yes, we are sure. We did the genetic testing, but thank you for asking.
03 / How much do you weigh now? Haha, wellll, I've actually gained 16lbs. so far, which isn't too bad, but I guess maybe I look like I've gained more?
04 / My friend didn't show until she was like 7 months, so if you're already showing now, then I can't wait to see how big you are at 9 months. Yeah, well, good for her, but this is my body and apparently this little lady inside me needs some more room. Not sure what to do about that.
05 / You're just being extreme because this is your first pregnancy. Yes, this is my first pregnancy, and I have chosen to abide by a certain diet. If that makes me "extreme", then so be it. If that is making you insecure about your diet, that's your issue.
06 / Awe, you're face is filling out! Ha. I didn't respond to this comment, because I didn't know how to, so I just smiled.
While these comments were making me feel bad in the beginning, I don't really care anymore. The first trimester was the hardest for me due to nausea, complications, and then of course, looking a little more chubby than pregnant. At that time, I was trying to get use to my body transforming to create this baby and the mean comments weren't making anything easier.
After my belly started to round out, and people knew I was pregnant, I felt like I was on the top of the world. I have OUR baby growing inside me, and that is such a blessing, so all of the odd comments and questions aren't worth worrying about.
For all those pregnant mommas out there
Any time someone makes a comment, shrug it off and go with the flow. I doubt they are trying to be hurtful, and hell, if they are, oh well. You have this miracle inside you, and that should be enough for you to not care about what someone says.
To the people making the inappropriate comments/questions... remember this... "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say it at all."